I know it’s been awhile since I last posted, but I thought I would take this opportunity to share just a few milestones from these past few months. And just so you know, I think I’ll be turning this blog more into a journal about Carmen’s daily adventures, accomplishments, tantrums, and just life with a Toddler in general! As we all know, parenting a Toddler can bring MUCH joy, require EXTREME patience, and can certainly help in growing one’s faith!!!
So, where have I been? Well…in 3 words…PARENTING A TODDLER!!!!
Life has been both a whirlwind AND a complete joy these past few months!
~Carmen took her own sweet time in walking independently. From day 1 she took steps here and there (mostly when she thought we weren’t looking) but never really showed enough confidence to actually WALK! It was always my theory that some children are just perfectionists, and will never start doing something until they believe they reached mastery of that particular skill. I believe this is true with Carmen, who no sooner did she begin walking, actually started RUNNING!!! And within just days of that she pretty well perfected climbing up AND down the stairs. We are the kind of parents who decided pretty quickly, with all the stairs we have in our house, that rather than be ever-fearful of her plummeting to the bottom of each and every staircase, we would prefer to just teach her how to go up and down safely. Let me say that this greatly helped in eliminating our concern of the stairs, and resulted in not needing baby gates to maneuver past and trip over.
~With every passing day Carmen’s vocabulary grows by leaps and bounds. Of course, most is only recognizable to the attuned ears of her Mommy and Daddy, but nonetheless, she clearly tries to repeat actual words and phrases. She says “Mama”, “Dada”, “wa (i) da?” (what (is) that?), “ow” (thanks Mom-Mom), “doh” (go; she will complete the phrase “ready, set, ‘dohhhhh'”), “eh doh” (let’s go), “Mama da?” (Mama, what’s that?), “ooooooooo” (moo), “eh heh” (neigh), “aaahhhhh” (baa), “zzzzzzzz” (buzz), “eh ba” (thank you/I love you/Amen; you know which one depending on what’s happening – i.e. when getting a kiss she says “eh ba” for I love you because that’s what WE always say when we kiss her, after our mealtime prayer she says “eh ba” for Amen, and when handing her something she wants she says “eh ba” for thank you, to which we always say “you’re welcome”). No matter what, she almost ALWAYS tries to repeat what we say. She will watch our mouths and try to form the words in the same way. She also recently showed an interest in singing frequently joining in with her own tune and words whenever one of us bursts into song (which happens quite often in this household)! VERY cute!!!!!
~Carmen has become QUITE the dancer!!! When she first came home she often would start swaying side-to-side regardless of whether she heard music or not (to which I would start singing “I got the music in me…I got the music in me…I GOT the MUSIC in meeeeee”). Just recently she started adding new moves to her repertoire! These include bopping her head or her upper body front-to-back, bending at the waist in a psudo-twist style, or most recently, bending to one side and spinning in a circle!!! Let me just say, I nearly busted a gut when I saw THAT move! I’ve gotta tell ya…the girl has rhythm!!!! Oh…she just started CLAPPING to music too…and not just that gentle golf clap, but full-fledged, swinging her arms back and bringing her hands together in as loud of a clap as she can produce!!!
~Carmen now sleeps in her own bed and puts herself to sleep each and every night! Our bedtime routine consists of a bottle (Mommy isn’t ready to eliminate that bonding opportunity just yet), potty time (yes…she consistently performs BOTH bits of business in the potty each night), tooth brushing (to the tunes of either “You Brush Your Teeth” or “ABC” depending on who is helping), diaper and jammies, and finally a rip-roaring 10 minutes of TICKLE TIME!!!! Yup…you read that right! Nothing like getting your baby ready for bed with a good TICKLE!!! You see, we found that when we put her right to bed after jammies and a short “rub down” she was still a bit antsy in her crib and would take anywhere from 1/2 – 1 hour before falling asleep. We learned that if we actually helped her exert some of that energy before laying down she fell asleep faster! So, tickle time became an official part of our bedtime routine, as crazy as that might sound! She still sleeps a solid 11 hours/night regardless of the time she falls asleep. I’ve actually found myself WAKING her at 10:30 a.m. before our entire day gets away from us (we DO believe she wakes up sometime during the night and will play for a bit before falling back to sleep, thus causing her to sleep later in the morning)!!!
~As evidenced by our last trip to the Dr., Carmen STILL loves to eat (she weighed 28 1/2 lbs and was 32 7/8″ tall – a weight gain of 4 lbs and growth of 2 inches since our last visit 4 months ago)!!! We have yet to find much that she doesn’t like. Even her initial disdain for cauliflower has turned into at least a tolerance, if not an actual liking! I will admit that I’m rather strict when it comes to trying new foods! I am a firm believer in the “it takes 16 tries before one determines a true like or dislike of a flavor”. I do not tolerate dislike due to texture, so if Carmen spits something out before she clearly has enough time to TASTE it, I will require that she immediately try the food again! We’ve reached the point where she rarely if ever spits anything out. She might clearly dislike it, showing her distaste through rather animated facial expressions, but will finish chewing and swallowing. At that point I don’t require her to eat more but I’m certainly not about to NEVER feed her that food again! Considering some of her reactions to first tastes, if I never required her to try things again she still wouldn’t be eating Kix, Life, cauliflower, or mashed potatoes!!! Wouldn’t that be a shame?!
~Carmen has become fairly outgoing, especially in places where she is comfortable and familiar. We see this most especially at Church. This past Sunday she actually spent the last 1/2 of the service in the nursery where she made her FIRST craft (awwwww…brought tears to Mommy’s eyes! Thanks K & W!!!)! At our Board meeting on Tuesday, she again went to the nursery with K (thanks K…YOU ROCK!!!). In the past she showed a slight apprehension around men, but has since become more comfortable around them. It pleased me to watch as she handed her favorite book to Mr. W and stood next to him with her hand on his knee as he read to her. She actually talked out loud in everyone’s presence, and voluntarily sat on the Pastor’s lap! Needless to say, Church is quickly becoming her home-away-from-home! She comfortably naps there on Sunday afternoons and on Fridays! She smiles, laughs, waves bye-bye, and blows kisses to anyone who “asks”! She really has become quite the Church’s social butterfly, bringing a smile to the face of all who greet her!
~With all the pages and pages of good we certainly have our share of bad! Life with a Toddler just would NOT be normal without a few MAJOR tantrums!!! I once had someone question whether listening to a satirical children’s song about throwing tantrums would encourage her child to actually BEGIN throwing tantrums! I nearly laughed thinking that a young child doesn’t need to listen to a song to learn how to throw a tantrum! At 17 months old, Carmen has yet to hear this song, yet throws her tantrums with the best of them! Just this past week she managed to throw 4 tantrums in a matter of 2 hours!!! One actually involved the stereotypical laying on the floor, kicking her feet, and shoving things out of her way so she had more room to flail her body! After 20 minutes of kicking and screaming she finally brought her sweaty little body to me for a breather and a hug! It’s heartbreaking for a Mama to listen to her baby scream, but at the same time she is learning self-control and appropriate behavior. By sitting with her so she knows I won’t leave her, but also ignoring the actual behavior she is learning that I’ll always be there for her but that I will not reinforce her inappropriate behavior with attention! We’ve only tried this tactic for a couple days (and she has since caught her first cold so Mommy is a little more forgiving of negative behavior) so we have yet to learn if this technique will be effective. All I can say is we know consistency is key, and ALL negative behaviors need twice as long to correct as they took to create! I figure it took 17 months for her to learn to tantrum…it will take 34 months to correct (putting her at about 4 1/2 years old before she learns appropriate behavior to express frustration…is that a realistic goal?!).
I stood the other night at the side of my baby’s bed and just watched her as she slept. I found myself weeping as I thought about the many blessings in my life! I cannot imagine how God saw fit to place this precious child in my life, but I thank Him and praise Him every day for making my dream a reality! Is Carmen lucky, fortunate, blessed to be a part of our family? Absolutely NOT! It is we who are lucky, fortunate, blessed that this dear, sweet baby should find joy and happiness in calling out for Mama and Dada and it being US who answer!!!
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